I had to write a book review for The Untethered Soul! I came across this book written by Michael Singer on Pinterest (yes, Pinterest might just be the next best place for book suggestions). The excerpt sold me because I resonated with it so deeply.
People say things like, “You know we don’t talk about that subject around your father.” There are all these rules about things that are not supposed to happen outside because they could cause disturbance inside. Living like this allows for very little spontaneous joy, enthusiasm, and excitement for life. Most people just go from day to day protecting themselves and making sure nothing goes too wrong. At the end of the day, when someone asks, “How was your day?” a normal response is, “Not too bad,” or “I’ll survive.” What is that telling you about their view of life? They see life as a threat. A good day means you made it through without getting hurt. The longer you live like this, the more closed you become.”
Woah. Michael just came at me. This is me. This was me. I found myself protecting myself from people and conversations because I was terrified of having a bad day caused by someone saying something hurtful to me or because I had failed myself in some way.
Singer teaches a lot about the art of opening and closing your heart and the consequences thereof. He reintroduced me to things that I had already known but didn’t quite know how to put them into practice and be consistent with the actions.
Do not let anything that happens in life be important enough that you’re willing to close your heart over it. When your heart starts to close., just say, “No. I’m not going to close. I’m going to relax. I’m going to let this situation take place and be there with it.” Honour and respect the situation, and deal with it. By all means deal with it. Do the best you can. But deal with it with openness. Deal with it with excitement and enthusiasm.
If you’re anything like me and you’re trying to navigate through this life and find yourself, this book is an exceptional guide to have through your journey. This book taught me a lot about the behaviours I would like to get rid of and a lot of behaviours that I would like to adopt.
Singer teaches a lot about inner peace and liberation. In order to feel these things you must realise why you feel a certain way about certain things and how you can free yourself from any feelings of apprehension.
Your mind has very little control over this world. It is neither omniscient nor omnipotent. It cannot control the weather and other natural forces. Nor can it control all people, places, and things around you. You have given your mind an impossible task by asking it to manipulate the world in order to fix your personal inner problems. If you want to achieve a healthy state of being, stop asking your mind to do this. Just relieve your mind of the job of making sure that everyone and everything will be the way you need them to be so that you can feel better inside. Your mind is not qualified for that job. Fire it, and let go of your inner problems instead.
Large chunks of this book felt like I had a therapist talking to me, reminding me of the person I aspire to be mentally, emotionally and spiritually. It was a huge pleasure reading and writing a book review for The Untethered Soul.
Read an excerpt here.
See what I read in 2018 here.